Via last night's USA Swimming Coaching Connection:
“STOP LOOKING AT YOUR PHONE!” yells Tasha, a point guard on the 6th grade YMCA basketball team I was coaching.
Immediately, I smile and start to explain to her that I forgot my
watch and I needed to make sure we were on schedule. Tasha rolled her
eyes, clearly unimpressed with my response.
“No big deal,” I had thought to myself on the way to practice when I
realized I forgot my watch, “I’ll use my phone.” Fifteen minutes into
practice, I had pulled out my phone to make sure we were on schedule.
“Can you believe the nerve of that girl?” I thought. “Here I am, the
volunteer head coach, staying up late watching videos on drills and
strategy, planning practices on my lunch break, staying late for players
who parents are delayed picking up their child…and now some kid is
telling me to put my phone away when all I am doing is making sure
practice is on schedule?”
Reflecting back on that practice later that night, though, I asked
myself what did Tasha really want? What was she really asking for?
I realized that she was looking for the one thing kids crave more than anything else. She wanted me to be there, in that moment, in that drill, watching her and her teammates. She wanted my attention.
She didn’t simply want me to care for her, or love her, or teach her how to play the game. She wanted more.
0. Double check the work to make sure that there are no other problems within it.
1. Alert the relevant parties
2. Take responsibility for what went wrong. This doesn’t mean that
you intentionally did it wrong, or that doing it right was part of your
job description. It means that you know something went wrong, you’re
unhappy about it, and you accept responsibility for letting it get by
you and you accept responsibility for making sure it won’t happen again.
3. Apologize. Not because it’s your fault, but because the incident
cost other people time or money or upset them, and you’re sorry that
they have to deal with that.
4. Come up with a plan to ameliorate the impact of the problem. If
you can’t come up with a plan, say so and ask for suggestions.
5. Come up with a plan to avoid the problem in the future.
6. Gather feedback.
7. Thank everyone for their patience and goodwill.
Either that, or you could hide, dissemble, blame, shuffle along, scowl, depersonalize and then move on.
We laughed about fellow hikers nearing the end of the AT up in Maine (that's where them Maine-iacs lives) that whined "It's been so great - I just don't want it to end." Really? Y'all wanna keep on smellin' like butt fer ever?
I don't know Jack Madden. His troubles with USA Swimming are big news in the Houston swimming community right now. He certainly has plenty of support from his former team.
Statement from Adam Stanford, President, Cy-Fair Swim Club: "Jack
Maddan is an exceptional coach, father, husband and role model. USA
swimming banning him from membership will change none of that. Although
Jack will no longer be able to perform the duties as Head Coach at
Fleet Swimming, he and his family will remain in our hearts and always
be considered OUR family. It takes but one meeting or conversation with
him to understand his good character, love of swimming and love of the
athletes us as parents entrust him with daily.
basis of the circumstance that has now led to Jack being banned was
based on an allegation from 1999 that we believe to be false. There are
NO other complaints or allegations, past or present and those people
that know Jack know he does not deserve the hand he has been dealt.
as a coach has had the full and unwavering support of the Board of
Directors throughout the process. Going forward, although he won't be
our coach, Jack and his family will continue to have love and support
from our Fleet family."
CFSC has removed Jack's bio, but here's what I found via Google (cached):
Jack was listed as an At-Large Board of Directors member for Gulf Swimming, but has since been removed from that position.
Channel 13's Jessica Willey did a piece on the (now former) FLEET head coach the other night. Video, text, and comments are here.
I do have to wonder if Jessica did any research on the "gentleman" she interviewed for the story (naughty word warning):
Ran into a couple of old swim coaches-turned administrators a couple of weeks ago at the Lamar CISD Invite. Great seeing Joe Imre (coached at Terry HS) and Jerry Kipping (ran the program in Corpus Christi) again!
Comment on another post gave a link to this excellent article. It's a two-pager without pictures. Sorry about that, visual learners.
Forget all that now. “Cafeteria-style” curricula are all the rage. Such is not the stuff of which a competitive 21st-century workforce is made. Worse, it is not the stuff of which informed, effective citizenship and leadership are composed.
What’s the remedy? For starters, prospective students and their parents should consult ACTA’s What Will They Learn? when choosing a college. If students and their parents begin voting with their pocketbooks through enrolling only in serious schools, the rest of higher education might well become serious once again.
Even before the Paris mayhem, Texans named Illegal Immigration and Foreign Terror Groups as the top threats to our country. More here.
Remember when cigarette ads were banned from television? We old-timers do. They said that too many years suckin' on them cancer sticks'll kill ya. Keeping them Marlboro Man ads off the tube will save us from ourselves, right?
It's a long-ish post, so here's something to listen to:
Terri Stanton has updated Joseph's Journal at the Caring Bridge site. Read it here
Thank you from the bottoms of our hearts for your continued hands
that have held ours and offered millions and millions of prayers for
Joseph and our family.
The most talked about swim from this year's Eddie Reese Invite was Clark Smith's 2000 free. Read more here
Smith, the reigning NCAA champion in the 500 freestyle, uncorked a
17:44.39 in the 2000 free. Since it’s not an official event, it’s tough
to compare the swim to anything else, but it is indeed fast. Smith
averaged 53.22 per 100 yards, an astounding pace for such a long swim.
A SOBO (southbound thru-hiker) named "Last Chance" has 700+ miles left in his journey. Like many hikers, he had trouble getting out to the trail from Gatlinburg.
I stood there for well over two hours. During that time it started to
rain so I got to test my new rain gear which worked well. I finally got a
ride as far as the Sugarland Visitors Center. I walked around there
asking folks if they would give me a ride to Newfound Gap and after an
hour I got a ride from a guy who hikes the trails in the Smokeys every
day he can.
Back in March, Bobby and I had no luck hitching out of Gatlinburg. Finally, we walked into a practically deserted convenience store and found a clerk with some free time to drive us out to Newfound Gap. Journal entry here. Crazy place, Gatlinburg...
If you're on a computer/device that doesn't have this site on "Favorites" - and don't want to type in the blogger address - typing in texasswimming.org will get you here...if you really don't have anything better to do...
Wonder about our top athletes and their post-race recovery routines? Read more at USA Swimminghere
After a race, hopping in for a good cool down and grabbing a snack and a
recovery drink are nearly universal practices. Massage is more common
at the elite level for older athletes, and cold water immersion is
growing in popularity. There is a hierarchy of recovery practices, and
it is probably never a good idea to sacrifice something at the top of
the list for something on the bottom.
MAC (NT) head age group coach Justin Doherty is moving on. They'll certainly miss him! The guy has an incredibly high "actively coaching to looking at phone" ratio. Count him as one more guy who wouldn't play foller the "leader"...